I know the usual is for me to say confidence, but really it does matter. But… it all has to start from somewhere. I won’t advice you not to wear shorts or to wear them longer or substitute them because the whole aim is to get you to be confident in your clothes. We do not want to succumb to the judgements of society.

You will need to take baby steps with clothes. I never used to wear shorts out before, including skirts. But because I usually go out to the shops like around the corner of my house or less than a km away I decided to attempt wearing shorts each time I went out somewhere near to home. This way I knew I would be judged by less people (if any) and I could see how I felt with that. Also, there is less pressure because my area usually is not as crowded and people tend to mind their business (unlike in the busy highstreets in the city centre of London) and I could feel a little bold and confident. I also knew that I wouldn’t be out for too long whilst considering the time of the day (midday when people are gone to work). Indeed, when I went to take short walks, go out to the local shop to buy some groceries I managed to build up my confidence slowly by slowly through the fact that there were less people, less eyes watching me and that I would be out for a short time. You could call it like a gradual confidence experiment. It worked for me and I have now increased how often I wear shorts and skirts because I realised no one really bothered! Also, even if they do, just realise that you do not live in this world to please society or anyone. You live for yourself and the people who love you.

Realistic confidence building requires that you take a step and don’t believe when someone tells you that you can gain confidence in a minute. i tell you, it takes time but also determination and persistence. Start off with the little of everything and gradually you will become used to it. The people that you see on the streets that YOU would stare out do not necessarily have the greatest confidence - they simply do not care what the world thinks. I also think that is important.

Try it out and take it slowly and see how it goes! Hope this helps :)

Perhaps! Looking through the conventional tags makes me feel weird =’/ They are filled with mixed pictures! Any ideas yourself?

Lol you could have written it in lesser asks, you still have some more space I’m sure!

Thanks for that. Beautiful. You are very right about the second sentence. People need to stop trying to please a society that can never be pleased. Who do you want to gain or lose weight for? Yourself or for society or for your friends? No matter what, if you do not love and accept your body you will not go anywhere.

That’s beautiful. Exactly. Tell your dad he is awesome!